Healthy relating involves three identities: Partner one, Partner two and the Relationship. Each of those identities has needs to be fulfilled.
Sometimes we need a bit of external help to enhance, revitalize or even save the relationship.
Comments from a client a year after finishing therapy:
"I just wanted to let you know that things are wonderful between F. and I. Thanks to your help we have managed to build a strong foundation based on mutual respect. A lot has changed in our relationship in the way we deal with each other. This type of help is priceless."
Couples counselling
Life for couples can be exciting and rewarding. However there are many challenges along the way. At times things go wrong. Everyday manageable “potholes” can turn into what pretty soon feels like a “bottomless pit”. The challenge is to get oneself out of the pit and get the strategies to reconnect and /or move towards positive outcomes: What are the feelings behind the issues? Can the crisis be a wake up call, an opportunity for change and a chance to grow? These are the type of questions we will explore in therapy.
Couples often enter therapy feeling discouraged and helpless. Great promises have turned into great pain. People think they “have tried everything” and nothing has worked. The chances are they have kept doing the same old thing which has resulted in the same old disappointment! Locked into the same old dance!
The simple fact that you are reading this page could be a good indication that you are ready to do the work and to take the steps towards change.
In therapy you are invited to take a step back -to defuse from the issues and start acting positively. We create a safe space in which both of you can express yourself, feel heard and understood. A good place to work out problems and resolve differences respectfully.
Sometimes one partner is ready for counselling but the other one is not. It is often beneficial for the partners who are ready, to attend counselling by themselves -even if it is a couple issue. Developing new understanding and experimenting with new behaviours by one person is likely to impact on the dynamic of the relationship.
. Premarital Program
Taking the steps towards putting in place a good basis for a healthy relationship.
Congratulations on your decision to commit. I wish to support you in turning great promises into a bright future together: What makes an intimate relationship really work in the long run? This is what we will look at in a 5 session program. In a relaxed and friendly environment I will help you develop the skills necessary for a long-lasting partnership based on intimacy and trust. I will show you how to meet the inevitable challenges of a life together with confidence, how to negotiate any potential hiccups and have fun along the way!
